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  • Reverse WAF problem!

    My wife starts her days very early, and finishes early. She is usually on the couch watching her movies/TV shows by 7:30 in the evening.

    I am usually not ready the watch until an hour later.

    In regards to our HT, I 100% paid, installed, and agonized over all the other things we go through to get a great system. It has been a long hard road of blood sweat and tears (and a lot of cursing) to get to where I am today, not to mention close to $20K, and that is a lot of money for a guy like me.

    My wife has contributed nothing, although I am grateful that she has not complained about all the huge black boxes:)

    The problem is that no matter what it is I want to watch (and I often pick movies, like Rom Coms w/her in mind) she does not want to watch them and gets pissed when I put my movie in. I even try and give her extra time to finish her programs.

    It happens every night, and each night her cry is "I just want to finish my program." But, as I said, that has been her lamentation every night for 2 months straight.

    I offered to build a system in our spare room (using my old HT and a calibrated 73 inch mitsu DLP....not chopped liver) all I asked is that she help me out a little bit financially (all I asked if for $400).

    Well her response is "I don't have the money (this is a woman who makes a very good living) and (again) all I want is to finish my program. When I put my movie in (Cyrus, a rom com that she would love) she slammed the door and made it clear in no uncertain terms that I would be talking to the hand tonight:mad:

    Any advice is appreciated.

  • #2
    This may be obvious but, IMO, it has nothing to do with programs, movies or home theaters. There's something else that's troubling her - either about her own life, or her relationship with you - and you need to talk with (and listen to) her.

    I hope you're able to work things out. :salute:

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    • #3
      Originally posted by eljay
      This may be obvious but, IMO, it has nothing to do with programs, movies or home theaters. There's something else that's troubling her - either about her own life, or her relationship with you - and you need to talk with (and listen to) her.

      I hope you're able to work things out. :salute:
      Oh, I am sure to always "listen" about her day.....and just listen, not try and problem solve. But really, she is pissed about me interrupting her TV watching.

      It is true that she probably feels that since she does more of the work in regards to our son, and feels that that entitles her to Carte Blanche TV viewing.

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      • #4
        You might want to tell her that after all your effort you are frustrated to not be able to use the room without making her mad. And that two entertainment areas would be a simple solution to this problem. I don't know what your financial arrangement is but if you don't feel she is carrying her weight you should let her know. I don't understand why 400$ would be an issue if that amount restores conjugal peace and happiness.

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        • #5
          Originally posted by django1
          You might want to tell her that after all your effort you are frustrated to not be able to use the room without making her mad. And that two entertainment areas would be a simple solution to this problem. I don't know what your financial arrangement is but if you don't feel she is carrying her weight you should let her know. I don't understand why 400$ would be an issue if that amount restores conjugal peace and happiness.
          My thought precisely. I think maybe I will calmly try to explain my position to her.

          My wife is usually pretty sweet and her stomping off in a hissy fit tonight is the exception more than the rule.

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          • #6
            Id get some porn going in my movie room in all its visual/audio glory......and USE THE HAND! :)

            j/k It is surely rooted in something else...talk to her....

            Originally posted by Dr_jitsu
            My thought precisely. I think maybe I will calmly try to explain my position to her.

            My wife is usually pretty sweet and her stomping off in a hissy fit tonight is the exception more than the rule.
            Denon X4000
            Front- Klipsch Chorus II (Samson sx1200 amp)
            Center- Klipsch Academy (Denon x4000)
            Rear Surrounds- Klipsch RP5 (Denon X4000)
            Back Surrounds- Klipsch RC3 (Denon X4000)
            Subwoofers- CHT 18.1 x2 (MQ-600 amp)

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            • #7
              LOL.....but I get tired of porn after a while:D

              This morning she gets up and is all sweetness and light and said "I'm sorry baby."

              Of course it is now 8:15 and she is parked on the couch and watching her programs again:doh! 1:

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              • #8
                I am thinking a schedule might be appropriate.
                OMG, I can't believe I just gave relationship advice. :eek:

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                • #9
                  Yeah- here's some more relationship advice.

                  Sell her!
                  Ray

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                  • #10
                    The dowry until the next marriage, even though on a monthly payment plan, can get expensive.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Ray3
                      Yeah- here's some more relationship advice.

                      Sell her!

                      34, very pretty, one baby, works out, perfect teeth.

                      Offers?

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by Dr_jitsu
                        34, very pretty, one baby, works out, perfect teeth.

                        Offers?
                        And being a TV hog is the worst it gets? Damn, most guys would wish they were you!!! Tell her you love her every day and say like it might be the last time you ever say it and all good things will follow.
                        Tweak City Audio WAF-1, Paradigm PS1000, Jolida FX-10 tube amp, Samsung Blu-ray, Beresford TC-7520 DAC, Apple Airport Express (living room)

                        Hawthorne Audio 101515 OB Trio DIY speakers, DIY Bottlehead Stereomour 2A3 amp, DIY 6CL6 SPUD amp, Rythmik 370 OB Plate Amps (in stereo), Beresford TC-7520 DAC, Macbook Pro/iTunes & Decibel FLAC player for Mac, Sony S370 Blu-ray (listening room)

                        Other stuff: Usher S-520, JohnBlue JB-3, MiniWatt, Glow Amp One, Nuforce Icon Mobile, Sennheiser HD595

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                        • #13
                          []:)
                          Originally posted by Dr_jitsu
                          34, very pretty, one baby, works out, perfect teeth.

                          Offers?

                          []:):pics::pics:
                          -Greg

                          Some people are born on third base and go through life thinking they hit a triple. - Barry Switzer

                          HO's Basement Take 2

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                          • #14
                            Mulligan

                            I got nothing.
                            I came, I saw, I purchased.

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                            • #15
                              One of the things I established when starting my current relationship was that I was an obsessive audiophile. Speakers go where they sound best. I may on occasion take over the kitchen table to tear apart or rebuild some tube electronics, etc. As long as my hearing is intact, I will probably always be into this stuff. She has accepted this and even came around to appreciating some of it. I've accepted her and her baggage as well and we've found a sort of equilibrium over the last 6 years.

                              Forget asking for your wife to contribute. This is your issue. You pay for it. See if she will compromise by watching her shows on the 2nd system so you can enjoy the fruits of YOUR labor.

                              Communication is the only way.

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