Time to move on...

[rumonkey2]

I've avoided this subject because of it's personal nature.
Looks like I'm about to be truly single again.
It's just too much of a "chore" for the GF and I to stay together.
It's been coming for more than a year now. We've tried to compromise and make things work. But, it's obvious it's not going to.
Honestly, I think we will both be "happier" in the end.
So, I'm working on finding a place. May take some time as I still have to contribute to the household to make a smooth "transition" and keep it rational.
Considering looking towards Tampa near Mandie, but I really don't wanna have to find a new job. It's gonna be a tough summer with all of this on my plate/trying to keep the peace while we are still "together".
So, this is my place of solace for now. It just seems I've wasted 5+ years when I could be in a better place emotionally/financially/physically. And the process is gonna make it that much harder until we are actually apart...

Sorry, just needed to get that off my chest:embarass:

[engtaz]

Why to you have to find a new job? Hope things get better. Hardest thing in a relationship is living together.

[rumonkey2]

Why to you have to find a new job? Hope things get better. Hardest thing in a relationship is living together.

If I decide to move to Tampa...
Gonna visit Mandie late July and "check things out"
I like my job here in Bham...
make "enough", decent benefits & good environment. Not too much "responsibility" , but no growth potential. Small "family" hardware store w/ a built in customer base in "well to do" part of town. We (they) have been in biz 50+ years, and no signs of going anywhere. We are just to convenient and offer top notch service!:huge: They do treat me well/take care of me. I feel welcome and "needed" (I do have to say, I have pretty damn good customer service skills/watch out for the business/loyal to a fault) Make a little extra on the side doing odd jobs for customers in need. Basically, I could be making alot more $$ in the food business (my background) - but the hours would suck & much more responsibility.

But, I would really like to be closer to my daughter. Just, I know deep down her starting her on life, she may not stay in Tampa too long. I have always liked the idea of living in FL though. And a move could be a "new beginning" for me.... :no clue::scratchchin::confused:

[graphicguy]

Price....hey dude....really sorry to hear about your turmoil. Breaking up after a long relationship really does suck. As they say, "time heals all wounds" (or is it "time wounds all heels"?).

Stay in your daughter's life, anyway you can. While it's been a long while ago, when my ex and I broke up, she wanted to move 800 milles away, with my son. I couldn't bare the thought of seeing my son a few weekends a year with a couple of holidays thrown in. It was costly, both emotionally and financially, to get custody of my son, but was well worth it.

But, as you say, it's time to move on. That's the first step....recognizing that fact. It's a journey. But, things do get better, believe me.

Wish you well. We're here for you if and when you need to "blow off steam".

[allan11]

They always say that getting it out in writing helps the healing process so I guess the forum would be similar. I used to write letters for the ex with the intention of giving it to her but never actually did in the end. At least this way you get a feedback. Sorry to hear about your issue and hope the best for you. Your daughter would help get you throught this.
I'd hate to ask but I'm not sure if you mentioned if your daughter is with this current gf. Maybe I should just assume she is.

[Ajax]

Sorry to hear this, Price. Human relationships can be incredibly complex and difficult. I certainly have never mastered them. Hang in there.

[arthurs]

Sorry to hear this Price, definitely never easy when relationships reach this state. Try not to think of it as wasting 5+ years, maybe think of how it's helped you grow and learn about yourself as a person, helping prepare you for the "right" relationship when it comes along....and it will come along...

Stay strong and stay positive.

[engtaz]

Tampa's a nice place to live. Best wishes sent.

[Ray3]

Sorry to hear this Price. Best of luck with all of it.

[django1]

I just wanted to mention that in my own life I arrived quite a few times at a place where I would say to myself: "this is the end". Looking back, I now see almost all of them as "beginnings"...

Hey Price, good luck to you.

[dbeng]

Sorry to hear the bad news Price.
It's hard as hell to make the decision after such a long time, but it looks as though you've made you mind up that it's not going to work out so you're doing the right thing to move on. Hang in there.
I'll second engatz's comments, Tampa is a nice place to be! I'm just outside Tampa in Palm Harbor and really enjoy the area.
Good luck, wherever the future takes you.
Dan.

[Jason]

Sorry to hear Price. 5 years is a significant time. Art has some good advice there.....

You know, a move might be a good thing. If I were looking at FL, Tampa would be where I'd start (although I could never be a Buc fan). I say go for it

[Rondar]

I've got no advice, but sincerely have you and your daughter in my best wishes book that things will turn out well whichever way your journey leads you.

[rumonkey2]

Thanks guys...

...yeah, getting it out in the open is a first step I guess.
We finished a long conversation and "plan of action" to make it easier for both of us.
It's all civil - so that's good. Just complicated and heartbreaking.
Mandie (daughter) and I haven't lived close in 15 years. She grew up in OK w/ her mother. Of course, she has been here several times, and a few whole summers. She is closer than ever now in Tampa. Yes, she has spent time w/ my current GF - I've lived here 6 years now. Funny, she has even asked why we are still together...:scratchchin::stirthepot:

It will be a new beginning either way - moving to Tampa or not. At least, on my own, I can and will have time to visit Mandie whenever convenient for both.
Although we talk almost everyday, I haven't seen her in 2 years.:crying: Just a timing/college/working/moving thing. I hope she is settled for at least a year:begging:

Through all this, I've got my music,my dog Jake, TCA, and of course, the Avatar Hotties thread!!!:goodvibes: It's all good, just another day in the life!:burgerking:

Jason - not sure if you've ever caught my mentioning it elsewhere....
Mandie grew up in Duncan & went to SWOSU before moving to Miami, now Tampa.
I was in OK - on and off - for 8 years...

[Mep]

Sorry to hear this. My brother is going through a divorce after 20 years. Sure is rough to go through these things.